What are you really giving up when you "give up" smoking?

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I make absolutely no secret of the fact I used to smoke. I'm neither proud nor ashamed of this fact. It was something that I did for a great many years and at one point I actually thought it was an integral part of my personality. I was a smoker. It wasn't something that I did, it was who I was. It did indeed define me.

I was also a political smoker. I would stand up for my right to smoke and be uncompromising about smoking. I would light up whenever and wherever I chose regardless of who was there or their thoughts about smoking. If I was asked to put my cigarette out quite frequently I would refuse.

I was also what a lot of people would call a heavy smoker. When I could smoke at my desk I would happily smoke 40 cigarettes per day. If I was going out for the evening I could easily smoke 20 before last orders where served.

I have calculated, based on the cost of cigarettes today that I have spent over £50K on cigarettes in my life which is a considerable amount of money. However if I hadn't stopped you could add another £250K to this figure, that's if I was lucky enough to live another 50 years.

Now some people will be horrified by those figures but I guess most smokers have already done the maths and know how much their relationship with cigarettes costs them financially. And does it really matter how much we spend if what we get back in return is worth it? Couldn't we easily spend as much if not more on holidays, clothes, hobbies, cars even high-end skin care? Is a life without pleasure a life worth living?

I have never been a fan of doing without the things that I want and I wouldn't as a therapist suggest or recommend that this is a suitable way for anyone to live their life. Human beings tend not to respond well to either being deprived or feeling deprived. It tends to result in people feeling quite resistant and aggrieved. In fact I actively encourage people to do what they want to do with their lives but only after they have woken up to the reality of the life they are living.

Ironically, as a therapist who uses hypnosis as a tool for change, my work does involve waking people up to reality, thus enabling them to see things the way they really are. And when people wake up to the reality of cigarettes they realise they are getting absolutely nothing from them at all. And they stop smoking.

When I was woken up to cigarettes, I stopped in an instant and never looked back. I see people smoking in the street, in their cars and even in their homes and I do not envy these people. They are doing something that I could no longer imagine doing and now makes little or no sense to me whatsoever. There was no motivation involved, I can't remember any withdrawal symptoms and I did not gain any weight. My life as an ex-smoker is calmer and I am more focused and generally happier. Plus I smell sweeter too.

Perhaps you are reading this blog because you no longer want to smoke but don't know how to stop. Perhaps you are nervous that you might not be able to cope without cigarettes in your life. Or alternatively you might have the smokers' conflict "you know you shouldn't smoke but you want to".

As an ex-smoker I understand and I'm happy to help you if you want a hypnotherapist to wake you up.


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